Guys – you are about to thank me. I am giving you a gift. Women – get your men to read this and you will also thank me.
Last night in Melbourne we had an Entrepreneur’s Organisation event with a high profile speaker Dr Ava Cadell about Neuro-Love-ology. She’s even been on Dr. Phil so to me she’s famous. Dr Ava is a love and relationship expert which is more so a very polite way of saying sex therapist.
There were men, women and couples in the room in a safe, trusted and non-judgemental mature minded environment having an open and frank discussion. Dr Ava is one of EO’s highest rated speakers. At EO we cover topics which extend far beyond just business to recognise the 360 degree entrepreneurial lifestyle which encompasses business, family, self and community aspects.
While slightly controversial with some laughs and squirms in the room at times, it was an amazing experience to be able to learn about the importance of creating a happy home and bedroom life which ultimately translates into a better and more sex-cessful work and business life.
One of the problems is this: The average married couple who has been married for over 10 years has sex once a fortnight for an average of 7 minutes. Now maybe that’s a long haul for some, but the goal here is to avoid becoming one of those stats!
You could also say many entrepreneurs are highly charged and tend use their right side of the brain being more creative, spontaneous, adventurous and see the big picture. Left side of the brain people tend to be more detailed and require structure, logic, reasoning and analysis and we need to compensate for these differences in the bedroom.
As silly as it sounds, the secrets to sex-cess could actually be the secret to world peace! After hearing Dr Ava, I feel more strongly about the importance of this topic which should not be ignored, avoided or deflected.
Here are the 7 secrets to sex-cess, care of Dr Ava Cadell which you can put into use TODAY!
1: Schedule it in! Both short of long sessions and don’t ignore the short sessions i.e. quickie. Just like any other important client meeting, manage your time and don’t ignore it. Better time management is required.
2. Get rid of the many internal and external distractions. Clean your room! Turn off your phone and clocks. Clear the mind of all the ‘noise’ which represents 90% of all distractions.
3. Do more of this: Cuddling, kissing, caressing, eye gazing, and massage. Escalate levels of touch that’s healing, romantic, passionate and sensual before going for the kill. It takes a women between 20-45 minutes to warm up so invest the time boys.
4. Say more nice stuff using appreciative and emotional compliments. This triggers more intimacy.
5. Say ‘I’m sorry’ and ‘I forgive you’ more which can transform your relationship.
6. Find the trigger hot spots – including the A, U, G, P and Million dollar spots - all medical terms I believe (Google those and you shall find).
7. State your wants, needs and desires using your partner’s right or left side of the brain. Open communication is key, and identify deal breakers early on as non-participation can destroy a relationship.
We also walked away with a bunch of takeaway’s products which can be used to help enhance the 7 secrets above, and I must admit I feel that the sex toy industry has been demystified. Interestingly, the adult products sold on the daily deal sites have been hot sellers with nearly all female customers and books like 50 Shades of Grey have helped fuel the industry.
So good luck people! If I can help enhance your life in this way, then I expect you to be smiling more tomorrow which will inevitably translate to better performance outside of the bedroom.